Feeling Old? Then Reverse it, baby.
Like the main character in the movie Benjamin Button, I am becoming younger as I
47. Sounds old. Could be old, especially if one sports ‘Mom Jeans’ and those bobs
that curl under at the ends. But 47—or any age—doesn’t have to mean the end of
being youthful. Our age is truly a perception in our mind, just as everything else is in this so-called
reality of life.
These 4 tips will help strengthen the age you are no matter what age it is, so you can
defy the numbers and live as young as you feel.
1. Don’t let “too busy” be your excuse for living less.
In my childbearing 30s, I was really busy.
Busy being a baby maker.
Busy trying to make headway toward my bright future.
Busy chasing really fun parties and really stupid people.
Busy making a career for myself.
But I was also TOO busy.
Too busy to discover the meditation practice that grounds my attention now.
Too busy to have conversations that mattered.
Too busy to think about problems other than my own.
Too busy to see the stars at night and wonder about nothing and everything.
Ask yourself what kind of busy you want to be. If you’re too occupied by mundane
obligations to do the things that are important to you, challenge yourself to double
down on them.
The Dalai Lama was asked in an audience how often he meditated. He replied, I
meditate one hour a day… but if I am really busy, then I meditate 2 hours a day.
You know what is important to you. The things that slow you down are the things
that ground you in the present. Do meditative acts every day: yoga, meditation, a
long walk, reading the paper at leisure, or talking to a friend.
A Nobel prize-winning a biologist , Liz Blackburn, conducted a clinical trial to study
the effects of meditation on aging. Participants who meditated for three months
showed marked reduction in stress, as well as age-related conditions such as
diabetes, heart disease and dementia.
If you want to reverse the clock, start by sitting down with your mind and learning
to be still.
2. Gravitate to the ones you love. Always.
The friends I really admire don’t give a shit about what others think.
They are the ones who truly exhibit grace; they exude a no-nonsense attitude and
hold fire in their souls.
They don’t lie to make you feel better.
They don’t play around with your ego and blow it up like a helium balloon flying
high for the world to see.
They don’t take you for granted or ask things from you.
They are the rocks that stabilize your foundation.
They are the counselors that listen without caressing your feelings.
They can confront you with uncomfortable truths.
Nourish those relationships. Make time for these friends and enjoy what time you
spend together. If you have lost them, find them again and love them, because most
likely they will be waiting for you.
3. Rock your body in all its 40+ glory.
Maybe your belly button has post-child bearing wrinkles. Maybe your surface area
is no longer smooth and tan and flat…but the hills and valleys of the abdominal
region are a testimony to gourmet dinners, fine wines and gastronomical pleasures.
Your crow’s feet may be growing in number and the space between your eyebrows
may look like it’s been branded forever with the number 11.
This is character. Treat it with respect and embrace your body. Wear what your
inner diva tells you to wear and wear it with confidence. A confident woman is
more than her physical shape; a confident woman is defined by her posture, her
stride, her smile and her flattering wardrobe choices.
4. Forget about the number and tap into your wisdom age.
Society teaches us to lie almost from the start. We are trained to give false
compliments, fake our happiness and deny our true age. STOP IT NOW!! Start with
the simple truth of embracing your age and then live up to the wisdom your years
have to offer.
Learn the art of tapping into your own wisdom nature. That is the view of looking
inside oneself for answers and reflections.
Spend time alone every day. Journal your thoughts and explore your creativity.
We are all capable of touching the inner qualities of wisdom at any age; however,
reflecting on life experiences and suffering brings us to that place at a faster rate.
Wherever you are on the path of finding wisdom, explore yourself and question
your actions, your words and your intentions. Let your inner guide lead to outward
Tell me your story, share your own tips and join me on an anti-aging crusade to
embrace your wisdom age. – Betty Riaz, July 2014